Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

What is Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples?

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a form of couples therapy with roots in attachment work. Whereas some other types of couples therapy see emotion as part of the problem, EFT sees it as the answer. EFT focuses on rekindling, repairing and intensifying the physical and emotional bonds within the relationship. The EFT process works to create a safe space where each partner can learn to be vulnerable, to share, to comfort, to really listen and to grow through difficult and traumatic circumstances.

It can be an incredibly challenging and frightening time when your relationship has hit a stumbling block. Perhaps you are unsure whether things will work out, or what either of you want anymore. Perhaps you feel disconnected from one another, and the people you once were. You may feel that the other simply does not understand you or listen to what you need. Relationship therapy can do more than simply ‘fix’ a relationship, it can elevate it to an entirely new level.

What can EFT help couples with?

  • Dealing with and resolving conflict

  • Better understanding one another

  • Improving communication

  • Dealing with trauma such as loss, grief, infidelity, infertility/fertility struggles, divorce/separation, blended families, family issues/secrets/dysfunction

  • Strengthening the relationship

  • Moving forward and healing past wounds

  • Working through differences in attachment styles

  • Letting go of unhelpful dynamics and patterns

How does the process work?

We will have an assessment session where you can share what you’d like to work on with me and understand more about the process. I offer this for a subsidised rate so you can get a feel for how I work before fully committing. It’s important you both feel happy working with me. After that, we will commit to a contract together which respects the principals of the work we’ll do. EFT couples therapy is for any 2+ people who want to work on their relationship, for example romantic partners, siblings, friends, parents & children.

How many sessions do we need?

This will depend on you- your engagement, availability, commitment and budget. We will tailor the process to you and regularly review how it’s going to ensure you both get the most out of the process.